So yesterday a few of my co-workers and I attended a seminar on Communicating with Confidence for Women with Dr. Kim. Oh my - let me just tell you - Dr. Kim was something else!!! As you walked in to sign up she was sitting at the table. She greeted every single person and wrote their name down on their name tag. She had a huge poof hair-do and had some major spunk! She started off basically preaching to us. I felt like I was in a scene from a Madea movie! Super loud, partly talking, partly singing, etc. It was awesome! I knew from the start that this would not be a boring 'ole seminar.
She's one of those who tells you not to be ashamed of you, to forgive and forget because it's not worth taking those type of people home with you & do what you love and do it with all you have! I know it was supposed to help me with my current job - but to be honest - I don't think I have much of a problem communicating and feel like I can easily get along with my co-workers. So what was running through my mind all day? My personal life and my "friends".
I fight this internal battle a lot. I actually think this post might be a little hard for me to push the "publish post" button. But after yesterday - I guess I deserve it! I can't honestly say that I try really hard to maintain relationships with my friends. By this I mean - Cody and I have friends that are couples, either married or not. Cody is the social butterfly between the two of us. He always plans the cookouts at the Molock's and sends out the messages that we are having a get-together. He plans the Billy-Bob's concerts, deals with getting the tickets and plans who comes. So on and so forth.
Since I have graduated high school and college - I have managed to maintain contact with a few of my friends. My bestie lives far away (4 hours)...and I think this is one reason why I always say I don't have any friends. She is the best though and even surprised me at the hospital when I had Gavin. You know - it's funny how major events in your life show you who truly cares. Aside from my immediate family...I can list very few people who came to visit us in the hospital. Just a little side note. So anyway - it's really hard to maintain long-distance relationships. I can't say we are as close now as we use to be - but I certainly know that deep down we always will share something special and we would both drop everything to be with each other in time of need.
So back on track to my point...out of the friends I made in college there are a few that live fairly close to me (meaning within the D/FW area). I often times find myself trying hard to maintain a relationship and don't get the same care in return. Maybe it's just me but here's my thought process: When I've tried including you in the events my life and you time and time again either (1) don't take the time to try and come and (2) never return the favor...I struggle counting you as a friend. I won't elaborate because I think that's straight to the point. Dr. Kim reminded me that I need to accept these actions, say "so?", and move on. Cheers to moving on.
Within that last twelve months I have been lucky enough to make two new really great friends. One is a co-worker who has done so much for me and my family just in the last few months. It's great because we both have young kids (boys!) and can relate on so many levels. But that family has shown me what true friends are. The other is someone who is the absolute sweetest and genuine person I've ever met. I technically know her through Cody (go figure!) and within the last year she has just blown me away with how great of a friend she is. We both stay really busy with our jobs and both go to school & have relationships with a coach (meaning we are crazy busy with life) - and we still manage to get together and visit & catch up. For both of these friends - the actions are both sided and I'm grateful to be able to know both of them. I guess I'm getting to the fact that some friends come and go. I think I need to learn to let go of the people who let go of me and embrace those who have entered and be thankful. Ah...touche since Thanksgiving is a week away!!
...Part 2 to come...
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